gingerafro
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Greg has made an incredibly good (and arguably the best) comment on this thread.
blondiechick, this is a conversation. We may not all be looking at each other, but this is what it is. And you are good at it.
Please let me tell you about something called Maslow's Hierachy of needs. We all have needs and once our basic needs are fulfilled, we move to the next level.
Here is the list of levels.
1. Biological and Physiological needs - air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sleep, etc.
2. Safety needs - protection from elements, security, order, law, limits, stability, etc.
3. Belongingness and Love needs - work group, family, affection, relationships, etc.
4. Esteem needs - self-esteem, achievement, mastery, independence, status, dominance, prestige, managerial responsibility, etc.
5. Self-Actualization needs - realising personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences
The theory is as follows:
If your needs at a certain level are not fulfilled you cannot get to the next level.
ie,You can't motivate someone to achieve their sales target (level 4) when they're having problems with their marriage (level 3).
You can't expect someone to work as a team member (level 3) when they're having their house re-possessed (level 2).
Therefore, the bottom needs need to sorted (sort the marriage out / get the house back) and then move on.
This theory can apply to different parts of your life. eg going to the gym.
1. Have the gear to go to the gym
2. Know that you won't get hurt by going
3. By going regularly, you 'belong' to the gym. Maybe smile at other regulars or say hello. Its easy
4. Now you feel better about yourself for going. You have self esteem. Others say how well you are doing. "Another 10 seconds of a 5k? Well Done"
5. Then you are ready to better yourself and be pleased with yourself.
So, work out where you are. Sort the bits of your life that stop you from moving on. Believe in the bits of you that are good. You are good at conversations. You do go to the gym. You like Excel. These things will radiate to others.
You only came out of high school 3 years ago. You are still very young so don't worry about getting married yet. Don't put pressure on yourself because there is no need to.
Hang out here. Improving your excel skills is certainly one way of moving up the pyramid and you will be having converations with many genuine people.
blondiechick, this is a conversation. We may not all be looking at each other, but this is what it is. And you are good at it.
Please let me tell you about something called Maslow's Hierachy of needs. We all have needs and once our basic needs are fulfilled, we move to the next level.
Here is the list of levels.
1. Biological and Physiological needs - air, food, drink, shelter, warmth, sleep, etc.
2. Safety needs - protection from elements, security, order, law, limits, stability, etc.
3. Belongingness and Love needs - work group, family, affection, relationships, etc.
4. Esteem needs - self-esteem, achievement, mastery, independence, status, dominance, prestige, managerial responsibility, etc.
5. Self-Actualization needs - realising personal potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth and peak experiences
The theory is as follows:
If your needs at a certain level are not fulfilled you cannot get to the next level.
ie,You can't motivate someone to achieve their sales target (level 4) when they're having problems with their marriage (level 3).
You can't expect someone to work as a team member (level 3) when they're having their house re-possessed (level 2).
Therefore, the bottom needs need to sorted (sort the marriage out / get the house back) and then move on.
This theory can apply to different parts of your life. eg going to the gym.
1. Have the gear to go to the gym
2. Know that you won't get hurt by going
3. By going regularly, you 'belong' to the gym. Maybe smile at other regulars or say hello. Its easy
4. Now you feel better about yourself for going. You have self esteem. Others say how well you are doing. "Another 10 seconds of a 5k? Well Done"
5. Then you are ready to better yourself and be pleased with yourself.
So, work out where you are. Sort the bits of your life that stop you from moving on. Believe in the bits of you that are good. You are good at conversations. You do go to the gym. You like Excel. These things will radiate to others.
You only came out of high school 3 years ago. You are still very young so don't worry about getting married yet. Don't put pressure on yourself because there is no need to.
Hang out here. Improving your excel skills is certainly one way of moving up the pyramid and you will be having converations with many genuine people.
