Thank you! Thank who? Thank when?

[erik.van.geit]

these situations are "difficult" for me

situation 1
ORIGINAL POSTER (OP): question
MEMBER: answer

OP: I've given it a try, but ...
or
OP: It works, thanks!
_____________________________________

situation 2
OP: question
M1: answer (correct)
M2: answer (not correct)

OP: thanks, M1!

 

[hatman]

I'm not sure I understand why either of these situations are difficult. I could think of many other situations that are more difficult or frustrating. Or are they difficult because praise makes you feel uncomfortable (I assume that you are placing yourself in the postion of Member 1).

 

[erik.van.geit]

it is a general remark

when do people thank ?
often there are only conditional thanks

first example had two possible outcomes
1. no thanks because result is not as expected
2. thanks because it is

second example
only the one who answered correctly according to OP recieves thanks

I would like to see the effort rewarded more then it appears to me by now.

 

[Von Pookie]

second example
only the one who answered correctly according to OP recieves thanks

Using your example 2 as a reference:
Don't forget that it is also possible that when the OP posted their "thanks" to M1, that the post by M2 may not have even existed for them at that time. The post by M2 could "sneak" in between the reply from M1 and the thanks from the OP without ever appearing on the OP's screen.

 

[Joe4]

Erik,

It really all depends on the person responding, everyone has their own methods. Many times, I get no response when something works, only when it doesn't.

In a perfect world, it would be nice to always be thanked for your efforts, but that isn't the way it is. You can't force people to thank you.

I decided long ago not to expect any thanks, and then am pleasantly surprised when I receive it. My main reason for being here is to help people. I do not take a lack of thanks personally. You will drive yourself crazy if you do!

 

[erik.van.geit]

Kristy and jm14,
thanks for replying
appreciate your comments !

Don't forget that it is also possible that ...

That's a technical reason we can distinct looking at posttimes.

There are people who thank by PM or email.
But we see other posts, would you think they did reply with "that's not working" + PM with "thanks".

I do not take a lack of thanks personally.

indeed we would get crazy

perhaps the start was misleading

these situations are "difficult" for me

To be clear: for me personally there is nothing much to complain - on the contrary -. So this was not the reason why I started this thread. It's just a general remark.

It's an invitation to think about.

 

[Von Pookie]

Quote:
Don't forget that it is also possible that ...

That's a technical reason we can distinct looking at posttimes.

Not exactly. Even if two posts do not display the same time, that does not mean that the person replying has seen the reply that "sneaked" inbetween.

For example, there are some times when I could have a page up for 15 minutes--or longer before I get around to finishing a reply for whatever reason. If I don't manually refresh the page now and again to check (I always use the 'quick reply'), I have no idea if there are have been any replies posted by the time I click submit.

I'm not trying to argue, I just want to point out the possibilities

 

[Todd Bardoni]

Who cares?! Do it because it enhances your skills...not for the thanks.

 

[HalfAce]

Thanks Todd.

 

[Zack Barresse]

Deez skillz dont need enhansing Toddy, deez skillz need thanks! (with my best Arnold impersonation)