I need the other stuff because I have other fields that I need to display in the query.
OK, you are confusing a bunch of different things here. It is important to get them straight.
Update Queries are used to update values in a table. They are NOT used for display purposes (for showing people data or for providing Forms, Reports, or Exports with data). This is true of all ACTION Queries (Update, Append, Delete). They are used for ACTIONS only, not for displaying data.
Select Queries are used to display data or supply Forms, Reports, or Exports with data. You CANNOT permanently change the value of a table field in a Select query through a formula (though if you have an updateable query, you can allow users to
manually update field values in them).
Select Queries can show Calculated Fields. These are simply calculations and are
NOT mapped to or stored in any underlying table field. They are dynamic, on-the-fly calculations.
A general rule of thumb with Access is that anything which can easily be calculated on-the-fly should NOT be stored in an underlying table field.
Never store that which can easily be calculated! If they can easily be calculated, there is no reason to store them. Select Queries can be used as the data source of other Queries, Forms, Reports, and Exports, so there is no reason to store everything at the Table level.
Does that clarify things for you?